i used to be an active volunteer... i participated in community clean-up events, tutored elementary school children on a weekly basis, and i walked (or ran, depending on the year) in awareness events for cancer and diabetes several times each year. i made monetary donations to charities. i gave my time to be an art information volunteer at a gallery in our nation's capital.and then somewhere between moving away from the metropolitan area and having two babies, most of my time and energy became consumed with feeding, diapering, nurturing and generally doting on those two babies, and the household that we created as a growing family. and for a while (supplemented with my annual participation in a cancer awareness event) that was about all the giving i thought was physically capable of.but over the past several months, i've been thinking about volunteering again. more specifically, i've been thinking about how important it is for my children to understand what volunteering is, and why it's important. and to figure out a way to involve my children in our family's volunteer activities. i was shocked when i struggled to find a way do this. of course there were plenty of organizations and causes that were worthy of our time and effort, but i began to realize that there were surprisingly few volunteer activities that were appropriate for my little ones to participate in.my kids see that we donate our gently used items to organizations like goodwill and habitat for humanity's restore. and each november we dutifully set out our bag of canned goods for our local boy scout troop's scouting for food event. but mostly they are just vaguely aware of these things; they aren't yet old enough to wield hammers or paint walls.when bug was two years old, we were members of the national zoo. to this day, he still talks about that holiday season and taking christmas presents to the animals... our zoo created a wish list for the animals that winter, so bug and i took that wish list to our local animal supply store and filled a large bag with kong balls and other items for the various animals to play with. we made our tax-deductible donation on the night that we attended the zoo lights event that year. the fact that my now four year old son still remembers that donation tells me (in a very powerful way) that these small actions leave a huge footprint on our children.with all of this swirling in my mind, i attended my first (ever) parent participation meeting. and i volunteered our family to do weeding on the playground at bug's preschool. it took us a full week to get the job done... i took the kids to the playground each afternoon after naptime and they played while i tugged, yanked and cursed weeds out of the mulch for two hours ever day. and you know what? they wanted to help. bug brought his little shovel and his gardening gloves and helped me bag up all those weeds. that weekend, we took daddy with us and - for the very first time as a family of four - we worked all afternoon in the crisp fall air to finish the job. it makes me so very happy to know that bug and his friends play on that playground several times each week, and that we were able to contribute to giving the kids a safe, clean place to run and play.with this craving for volunteerism still pulling at me, and with the season of thankfulness and giving quickly approaching, i share with you our most recent project... bug and lulu had friends over this weekend to participate in a holiday giving project. our dear friend ml found an organization that delivers holiday presents to children in need in foreign lands. they asked that we select a gender and age for our gift, and requested that the toys and toiletries be placed inside of a shoe box. in preparation, we all took our children shopping to let them pick the gifts they wanted to give. and on sunday morning, we (mommies) wrapped shoeboxes in brown paper and asked the kids to decorate and fill them. they loved it.our little artists hard at work...

audrey's finished artwork...
and a sample of the goodies inside...
bug has asked me numerous times over the past week who the little boy is that will receive our gift. and while it is complicated to explain to him that we don't know that child, i have no doubt that bug will be reminding me about this project for years to come.
volunteering comes in so many shapes and sizes, and my agenda certainly isn't to push any particular cause or organization. it's simply to hope to inspire just a few more families to do what feels right to them. we're all pressed for time, no doubt. and in these economic times, the dollars are short. but there will always be others who have less than we do, and there will always be a way that we can help in our own small ways.
holiday giving project
1. find a non-profit, or other charitable organization, whose mission and goals resonate with you
2. give, part one. your time. your dollars. your effort. in whatever capacity you are best able
3. give, part two. give thanks for what you have
4. bask in the spirit of the season
how does your family give back?